Mother drags 17-year-old teen away from hometown because of her new husband and stepchildren, teen forms a plan to move in with grandparents: ‘She said I was totally selfish’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Mar 31, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Anyone who grew up in a turbulent household with a lot of unfamiliar faces knows how important it is to be around familiar family who you know are looking out for you. An example of this is a family going through a divorce or even a family dealing with the absence of a family member without legal proceedings. If you grew up in your hometown always going to your grandparents' house on Sundays, then you will struggle to reconcile with leaving them behind. Without a lot of constants in your life, you'll end up feeling lost, uncomfortable, and yearning for the days when your mother didn't remarry…

In this next story, a 17-year-old daughter hatches a plan to move back in with her grandparents after her mother packs them up to move away with her stepdad and stepsiblings. Though her mother might've thought she was doing her daughter a favor, the daughter wants to leave. It makes sense. Her mother, however, is treating her as if she has no right to her own wants and feelings. Scroll to read.

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  • A 17-year-old is allowed to want to go home… Repeat after me. A 17-year-old is allowed to want to go home and has needs of their own. These needs include staying away from her selfish mom and her new family.

  • "I told her I never wanted the move and for me home isn't about the stuff, but the people..."
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  • "AITA for agreeing when my mom told me I'm not even trying to make this my new home and telling her I just want to go home?"

    I (17f) moved states with my mom, her husband and his kids when I was 13. My mom's husband got a job offer in his home town and he wanted to be near his family and mom okayed
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  • it. This took us away from my family and the people I lived with for 11 years. Because before my mom moved in with her husband we lived with her parents as in my
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  • grandparents. I never met my dad so for me my core family was my mom and my grandparents. I had two aunts and an uncle and their spouses and kids all living within 15 minutes from our old house too.
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  • The move was great for my mom's stepkids. They got to be close by their families (their dad's side and their mom's). Their mom di d so it was emphasized that it would be extra special and
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  • important for them. They always wanted to go back home. Because this was always home to them. But to me? My home is where we moved from. When we were first told about the move I
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  • said straight up that I didn't want to leave my family behind and my mom told me I wasn't because we were all moving together. I didn't see the stepfamily as my family though. To me my family
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  • are still mom and everyone back home but especially my grandparents. Her husband has tried to fill the role of my dad but my grandpa and my uncle already
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  • filled in the fatherly figure role for me. And I'll admit the fact he took me away from my family to be near his also makes me less open to being close to him.
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  • I had no choice in the move so I went with them but I always saw this as temporary for me and I would move back home as soon as I could.
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  • My mom has tried to make this my home. She put me in extra curricular activities, she let me do stuff I was never allowed to do back home and she tried to use things to make me love it here.
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  • But I hated every second of being here and now that I'm 7 months away from being able to move home again, it's all I can really think about.
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  • I've spoken to my grandparents about moving back in with them when I can and they're on board and they're excited to have me back. We were talking about some of the logistics of it when
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  • mom came home and heard some of my side of that discussion. She got upset and asked me why I'm already planning on leaving and I told her that I always wanted to. She told
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  • me she wanted to strangle me (not in the literal sense of k ing me but you know) because we had so much going for us where we are now and I can't see it. She
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  • told me I could've used the move to get everything I wanted and it would have worked. Then she said I'm not even trying to make this place home and I agreed with her. I told her I never wanted the
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  • move and for me home isn't about the stuff but the people and I left most of my family behind when we moved. And I just want to go home now and I've always just wanted to go home.
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  • She acted like I slapped her. She told me she knew I considered her my family but to say I left most when I had her husband and his kids here meant I didn't even count them and she said it's
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  • been 6 years since we all started living together so that was a hard thing to hear. She told me she couldn't understand me and that most teenagers wouldn't give a cr p about the people they left
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  • and they'd k for the stuff they gave me since we moved. She also said her husband would be really gut punched to realize while he's been bonding with me and seeing me as his daughter I
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  • only ever saw him as the guy who made me move. She said I was totally selfish and didn't even love her enough to accept this because she loves me and she loves him and his kids. AITA?
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  • Dragon_Queen_66 NTA. It's not your responsibility to make your stepdad happy. Go back to your grandparents and be happy.
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